Although one person agreed that an entry fee was “tacky,” they thought the OP had bunked it up by not explicitly telling her friend she wasn’t coming.
“I do feel like you left it open ended about coming to the party. You told her no, and she said ‘Right, you promised to be there,'” the person wrote. “You ended the conversation with her clearly expecting you to show up. She potentially bought food or gag gifts based on your attendance so your no-show may have cost her money. You should have been clear with her that you would not be attending.”
“Your friend was beyond rude to invite people and then — after people had said they were coming — spring an entry fee on them,” wrote someone else. “You weren’t rude at all to decline, but you should have told her you weren’t coming.”
“You promised you would be there assuming that it would be like most parties and not charge an entry fee (that’s really weird, btw). That being said, you definitely should have told her that you weren’t planning on attending after she texted saying she wouldn’t make an exception,” another person commented.
In an update to her original post however, the woman explained that her decision had made her feel guilty. “I always let people walk all over me and I felt extremely guilty considering maybe she had got goodie bags or something for me and I didn’t technically tell her I wasn’t attending,” she wrote. “I found out today through a mutual friend that only 11 people showed up out of 30 + she invited.”
She added, “I feel so much better knowing I’m NTA.”